Men without a doubt check out the lips and eyes.  Usually, I think of Jessica Rabbit right away when I think of this.  With her luscious lips and bedroom eyes, no wonder the boys go AHHHHUUGHHHHAAAAAAAA!!!!  Of course.  She can strut the walk without a sweat and bring your ego from rainbow to rain.  Confidence is Victoria’s Secret.  Its not what you wear but how you choose to represent yourself in what you wear and the persona exhibited.  Some like curves, some like muscle, some like fatttties and some like trannies!  Everyone has their preference.  I admire a challenge.  I want something that can turn me upside down in the bed and in the classroom.  I cannot lie- i like THE BITCH! Easy to see, hard to touch. I like the ones that know and believe their on top of the world and don’t feel the need to subscribe to any BS.  The one you know is secure enough to not pay attention to any boy’s needs.  The one that can reject you once and you’ll keep coming back for more.  The BULL in the BULLDOG if you know what I mean!  I’m talking about the filet mignon! The STALLIONE!   Jessica Rabbit is my woman!!!!!!!!

I remember reading an article a long time ago about how making particular changes in your life can increase the number of years you live.  I don’t remember the exact figures, but for example it was something like ‘if you stop smoking, you will add six years to your life’ and ‘if you begin a exercise routine, it can add four years to your life.’

Even then, I was skeptical they could pin down the number of increased years to such an exactness.  However, something did stand out to me.  Out of the several potential changes they listed, only 1 added double digit years- that is, more than a decade of longer living.

Begin thinking positive.  And really, this should not be much of a surprise.  Our psyches are not affected as much by the experiences we encounter as they are by the way we frame these experiences in our mind.   What is an irreversible disaster for someone is an invaluable learning experience for another.

Various companies advertise water in numerous ways. “Natural,” high quality,” “clean,” “pure,” and of course “fresh.”  What truly is pure water?  How is the water that comes in your simple poland springs recylable different than the one you see flowing in Lion King with Simba? They both look natural and pure.  I love it when they say that the water comes from “natural goodness” or “carefully selected springs.”  What does that mean?  Does it come from rain?  I like water that tastes good and hydrates me.  Supposedly New York has one of the cleanest water in the country.  What does that mean…the rest of the country drinks piss? I love it when it says that there is a magesium/calcium mineral based balance. Is that supposed to even exist in water?  What about water that is full of chemicals and heavy metals coming from pipes and transported to your kitchen giving you lead lead poisoning?   I want the water that they show in Jungle Book, Lion King and Pocahontas.  It looks really crisp and fresh and I bet the fish taste delicious (salmon teriyaki!!).  I think I might have to go to climb a mountain in Africa or visit Figi!! 

by J-dog

“You have gorgeous hair.”

It was a statement that put an immediate smile on my face, because no one has ever complimented my hair before.

From the time I was a little kid, I always kept my hair ultra short.  I thought it looked clean and cool, and that anything longer would simply look disheveled.

After persuasion from friends, I let her grow.   I have to admit, it looks pretty movie-starish now.  I like to style it.  Women like to grab it.  And yeah, now I get compliments.

by Jay

I recently read a book which included the Myers Brigg personality test.  I had such a hard time figuring out which of the 16 types I am.  I was pretty sure I recognized the one that resembled me in childhood, but it really did not fit me anymore. 

Frustrated, I read on.  Soon, the book explained how it is important to identify what we are not, or in other words, our weaknesses.  As we go through life, we naturally and sometimes conciously examine and improve behaviors we aren’t particulary used to or are comfortable with.   A woman who is constantly concerned about her career might realize her family is more important.  A man who is extremely rigid in thinking might move across the nation for work purposes and be enlightened by his new, culturally diverse neighborhood.

It is part of our development as human beings.  Rather than be frustrated by my inability to identify my Myers-Brigg type, I now realized how great this lack of classification was.  The way I think and behave has changed significantly since I was younger.  While I still have things I need to work on, I am much further along on the path to a well-rounded development than I initially led myself to believe.  And, maybe more importantly, I remain keenly aware of the weaknesses I still harbor.

The economy has zig zagged up and down.  More so down. Its taken millions of jobs out of the country, many of which we may never see again.  Its altered us with a new perspective especially on the youngins coming into the job market for the very first time and those in their final stages leaving the job market.  Its delayed the retirement process for some and held back the Wall Street expectation for the Ivy League grads.  In reality, its offered many people to reconsider for the first time in their lives to do something very different simply just for survival.  Fortunately, for me I’m in the gray middle and have switched careers several times and still young enough to reconsider what I really want to do without much pressure.  Its very different world when your married and have children to feed or bills to pay that are skyrocketed from the mortgages that many owe.  Its really brave new world out there in a sense.   What should we learn from all this? Conservation or Conversation?  Conservation will just save you from the inevitable and never will let you truly see what your capable of as they say you only get out what you put in.  Conversation will let you know what you need to put in based on enriched enlightment you may share from yourself and those from around you that make up your world.  Sometimes….its better to start then NEVER

1. They can’t!! (its a power struggle issue)

2. We question what we cannot understand and see (sort of like God)

3. It requires much more deeper thought for a hunter (man) than a caregiver (woman) to say something as extraordinary

4. When the CRAB is out snipping people, the TEDDYbear is inside the smaller intestines

5. BALLS of STEEL vs BALLS to get stolen

6. Like is a better word

7. We like to be told that 10,000,000 times and cannot do back the favor

8. The Last Samurai is better than the Wedding Singer

9. It has such a strong connotation for 4 letters, better to say “OUT” or “NO”

10.  Food is more important, thats real love!!

by Jay, desiexclusives.com staff

Mixing is one of our favorite pastimes.  From Vodka and Red Bull, to house music with R & B vocals, us humans love to combine things that just don’t go together.

My sister back in the day married a white guy.  My parents were shocked, although the color of his skin might have been one out of a host of reasons. 

But does ethnicity/race really matter?  Fast forward several years later, my sister is still married and knows she made a great decision despite any objection she might have encountered along the way.  She didn’t marry a white guy, she married a guy.  Period. 

Marrying within the same ethnicity might preserve ‘racial pureness’, or might serve as a sense of comfort to an individual who feels like if all else fails at least he and his wife have one common bond to hang on to- the color of their skin.

People get involved with athletics for all sorts of reasons.  I got into it because I mainly enjoy sports.  Some people love the energy and others do it to keep themselves busy.  It keeps things interesting too.  When there’s not much else going out, why would it not be a good idea to get a little competitive?    We need our LeBron James, Tiger Woods and Alex Rodriguezs to keep things exciting for us.  There’s only one problem: when you are watching these athletes going out and playing their hardest on the football fields or basketball courts with 100k+ people watching, do you ever wonder if there was anything that you were so passionate about that would have tons of fans cheering you on because you wanted to be the best you can be at what you enjoy most?

We are what we want to be.  We exercise so we stay in shape. We eat so we don’t get hungry. We drink so we can forget our problem, or not. We choose to live our lives the way we want to because of our attitudes towards our beliefs.  Indians can be greatest athletes in the world but we rather focus our energies in a different entity.  There are some that are into the sport/athletic realm and if that makes them happy then so be it.  Whatever the case may be as long as your passionate about it, thats what counts.  Why should not believe THAT THERE ARE CASTLES IN THE SKY