written by an outside contributor for desiexclusives.com

Throughout our life, we converse with thousands of different people.  Many are tedious conversations about school or work and others are simply about a specific topic such as sports. But there are those select conversations we have with a certain person whether they a close friend, family, or just a new acquaintance that we remember for years.  A conversation that is so engrossing and deep, in which you really get to know a person.  To me, deep conversation is one of those priceless moments in life because there really are a select few we can really have it with.

Many conversations we have in life with our family, friends, or acquaintances are often about work and other boring topics.  Unless you are an FBI agent, an astronaut, or an athlete, more often than not, conversations about work are boring and uninteresting.  I know that everyone discusses work since it’s such a big part of a person’s life, but if that is all you can talk about with someone, you know that you aren’t making a great connection.  Having a deep conversation is an opportunity for you to really open yourself to someone.  This allows you to the take the next step with someone.  An acquaintance you meet here and there can become a close friend, or your girlfriend that you currently date can become your wife.

I believe that great conversation is something we take for granted and overlook.  We meet so many people in our life that we become friends with and lose touch or become distant.  Maybe they were friends that we partied with in college, but never really connected with on a personal level.  The people that we can have deep conversations with are people that we can truly connect with and share our thoughts and feelings.  Through deep conversation, we can really learn to care or love a person.  With regards to friendship, such conversation is a great way to realize who your true friends are.  True friends are able to open up to each other and not judge each other.  They are not going to call you just to ask if you want to go out, but they will call to converse and see how you are.

Obama is running now with the lowest approval rating so far since the inception of his Presidency.  Despite legislative victories with the economic stimulus, health care and financial overhaul, Obama still is lacking the credit for the achievements he’s accomplished.  Things may still get worse towards the end of the year. With two wars, major oil spill, debt liability, unemployment, national security issues and partisan attacks coming along the way there’s a lot to tackle.  The President has a bigger than expected agenda which will affect other issues.  Issues that Obama wanted to hit that may get delayed included social security, illegal immigration and climate change. Obama needs many years to get all this taken care of. Obviously over 4. So what does this mean to Barack. It means that this change he promised has be progressive change that will take time.  Take years. It tooks years to get into this mess and years to get out. Obama can win ‘12 for several reasons. Well, firstly there’s no worthy competitors. Secondly, Obama will have the experience with all the conflict situations ongoing that it would merely be an interruption to have a different candidate. Thirdly, Obama can’t get worse from here but hopefully better.

by Ken LeClair

“Clothes make the man. Naked people have little or no influence on society” – Mark Twain

Well, now that the answer has been established is it then a wise investment to invest in a great wardrobe for business? Of course it is! A well dressed businessman or business woman only gets one chance to make a first impression, and nothing does it better than a well tailored suit or a sharply pressed dress shirt with a pair of stylish dress slacks and of course a nicely shined pair of shoes.

Business requires a certain amount of showmanship and the well dressed businessman understands the importance of dressing the part. The real estate agent showing a $4600 per month apartment needs to look the part as does the banker closing a multi-million dollar deal..it’s all in the presentation, and the more believable the players are, the more likely the deal is to be made. So if you want to be a success in business, invest in yourself by purchasing a first class wardrobe that will cast you in the role of the sharp guy you really are.

by Ken LeClair

So you are driving along life’s highway at 90 miles an hour and the world is your oyster and all is well…That is until you realize that you passed your exit, or it is just in front of you three lanes over. What to do? Careen through three lanes of traffic and risk a collision, or take the ‘U’ up ahead and double back? Snap decisions can make a big difference in life and we are all faced with them every now and then. This is where our better judgment and intellect comes into play. If we make the right decision, all will go well; but if we make the wrong decision there can be a mess to clean up. It’s all about choices- so what would you do in this situation? Or one very similar? No hidden meaning here just check your 1st inclination and if it works better than your 2nd choice.

Sites like Facebook, Twitter and Craigslist have made going out more like staying in. With the touch of your fingers you can find whatever it is that your looking for without stepping out of the house. As more people become technologically synched, more people will crave communication synched as well. More and more people require the use of the internet in their workplace. It becomes almost like a necessity tool to carry the blackberry and iphone internet applications so you can respond better to emails. With all this at the power of your hand, the world within your hands, why go out?

by Ken LeClair

Myth has it that guys with big muscles are short on brains…NOT TRUE…most of the world’s top bodybuilders and top athletes are actually quite intelligent and successful in business careers as well. Science shows that lifting heavy weights and staying conditioned through adult life ,while eating a healthy diet, not only keeps testosterone and human growth hormone levels high but also increases blood and oxygen flow to the brain.

A brain that is the beneficiary of elevated blood and oxygen flow stays active, alert and increases brain cells while the inactive couch potato’s brain collects dead brain cells that lead to Alzheimer’s Disease and Dementia. So the next time you read about an athlete making hundreds of millions of dollars, keep in mind that the healthy brain of the athlete will be enjoying all that dough for a very long time. The average Joe who aspires to being a lot more than average would be well advised to head to the gym and pick up some weights unless of course a couple of six packs of beer and a 42 inch waist is what he really wants.

Karma has always been talked about in history. Its been used as a moral of a story and a lesson for the way we should live our lives otherwise something bad or worse may happen to us. Karma also limits people from using destructive forces in order to avenge themselves or do harm onto others.  However, those with true power and force on this world do use destructive forces in order to achieve their means.   Some may refer to this use of power as an abuse of power. But really the truth is that they may never face their karmaic fate.  Karma has been said to control the masses.  And in a way, its been working.  Sometimes the benefits outweigh the consequences.  If the idea of Karma was not created then it gives the masses an incentive to do what they want without repercussions.

by Ken LeClair

Do we create our own heaven or our own hell here on earth by our actions? Do we by our own deeds bestow evil or goodness upon others and in return on ourselves? If we are kind and generous will our lives reflect this quality, or if we are mean and selfish will our lives take a different course? The belief in karma was well established in India before the advent of Buddhism which carried the idea of karma to deeper meanings.

The basic tenants of karma is that what goes around comes around. If you are an honest, genuinely good person your life will reflect the positive aspects of these qualities. Though others may rob you and malign you, there is no lasting harm as you are complete on the inside and those who know you best will be there for you. If on the other hand you choose to be a thief and a maligner, those who know you best will know what and who you are.

Bernard Madoff had his riches and now he has his reward; meanwhile, those he robbed still have their freedom and their good names. But what about the little guy who leads an honest life and is faithful to his wife and raised his children to be good to their fellow man? Do you think he will fare better than the big shot who did whatever it took to climb to the top and acquire the millions at any cost?

by Ken LeClair

Well, if you are an actor or a fashion model that might be enough to get you in the door but getting in the door is not enough to guarantee success. A man’s success is based on the fruit of his labor at his chosen profession ..fresh fruit is the result of a good days work after a good nights’ sleep.  Rotten fruit is the result of a night on the town with a few hours sleep thrown in.

Sounds harsh and over simplistic but our energy source ..the sun ..the rain ..the fertilizer…these things come from within us and if we let ourselves we can supply all of this to our labor. But if we let darkness, drought and impurities invade our bodies that is what will come out. Each man has the ability to control his destiny and it is always the choices we make that determines our outcome. Sometimes we do it to ourselves and sometimes we let others do it to us.

Is it really that simple? Well, look at the earth when there is rain and sunshine on fertile ground and then look at the results of drought and darkness on the withered landscape of the desert..one blossoms while the other does not. ..Your life can be a garden of plenty or a parched waste land. It all depends on you. And if there weeds growing in your garden…they have to be pulled out and thrown away.